Girls-only spaces are incredibly important because they provide a place where girls can feel safe, supported, and free to be themselves. For some, it's simply about playing the sport they love. For others, like it was for me, it can become so much more.
Judy Robar embodies the spirit and goals of the WINS Spotlight Series through more than 45 years of dedication to softball as a player, coach, mentor and community leader. As President of the Aurora Mixed Slo Pitch League, she helps organize one of York Region's largest co-ed slo-pitch leagues, creating an inclusive environment where hundreds of players can stay active, build friendships and enjoy the game. She has also volunteered with the Town of Aurora's Strong in Sport program, introducing young girls to softball and encouraging them to discover their confidence through sport. For Judy, leadership and mentoring are about creating opportunities, supporting others, and ensuring that every participant feels value and is included. Judy's journey began in an all-girls softball league in Willowdale, Ontario. When limited competitive opportunities were available for girls, she joined a boys' league to continue challenging herself at a higher level. Softball and swimming became important sources of strength, belonging and confidence throughout her childhood, teaching her resilience, teamwork, humility, and perseverance. Today, she continues to give back through coaching, mentoring, and organizing opportunities for others, helping ensure that young athletes – especially girls – have a place where they feel supported, empowered and encouraged to take their shot.
Q&A with Judy Robar
Current role(s): Player, Coach, President, Wife, Mom and Small Business Owner
What Aurora organization(s) are you affiliated with? Aurora Mixed Slo Pitch League & Volunteered for Aurora’s Strong in Sport, a girls only softball program where I introduced the sport to young girls.
Where did you grow up? North York, Ontario
Why do you think mentoring the next generation is important? Mentoring the next generation is important to me because I know firsthand the impact that having a positive influence can have on someone's life. When I was younger, softball was more than just a game. It was my outlet, my safe place, and a place where I learned confidence, resilience, and the importance of being part of a team. At a time when there were limited opportunities for girls in competitive sports, I had to push through challenges and prove that I belonged. Those experiences shaped me and showed me how important it is for young athletes to have people around them who believe in them. I want the next generation to have the support, encouragement, and opportunities that every young athlete deserves. Mentoring isn't just about teaching skills or helping someone become a better player; it’s about building confidence, teaching life lessons, and helping young people discover what they are capable of. You never know what someone is going through outside of the field. For some, that team, that coach, or that mentor may be the one positive place where they feel valued and supported. If I can be that person for even one young athlete or adult player, help them believe in themselves, or inspire them to keep going when things get difficult, then I know I am making a difference. The game has given me so much throughout my life, and mentoring others is my way of giving back and ensuring that the next generation can experience the same joy, friendships, and personal growth that softball has given me.
What does leadership mean to you? To me, leadership isn't about having a title or being the loudest voice in the room. It's about setting an example and creating opportunities for people to succeed and have fun. Over the years, I've learned that the best leaders listen, communicate honestly, and make decisions based on what's best for the group, even when those decisions aren't always the easiest or the most popular. Leadership requires integrity, consistency, empathy, and the willingness to step up when something needs to be done. Whether I'm part of coaching a team, playing on a team or organizing a league, I want people to feel seen, respected, and included. I believe everyone deserves the chance to belong and to enjoy the game, regardless of their skill level or background. One of the greatest lessons that softball has taught me is that leadership isn't measured by wins and losses. It's measured by the culture you create the relationships you build, and the positive impact you have on others. If people leave feeling more confident, more connected, and excited to come back, then I know I've done my job.
Tell us about your journey–how did you get to where you are today? I've been playing softball for more than 45 years, and it has truly been an integral part of my life. I started playing in an all-girls league in Willowdale, Ontario, where my love for the game began. As I developed my skills and wanted more competition, preparing for competitive opportunities, I faced a challenge that many female athletes experienced in the 1980s — there simply weren't many competitive opportunities for girls and women, not in my community anyway. My other passion was being in the pool and swimming, and I was a very talented swimmer at a very young age. For various reasons, I was unable to pursue both at that level, so I chose softball. Looking back as an adult and knowing what I know now, I wish I had chosen to continue to swim. Perhaps an Olympic dream was missed along the way. My Dad was an influential component when it came to being an athlete. “Practice makes perfect” after all. There were days when I would be outside for hours, pitching up against a brick wall with a spray-painted square as my strike zone, and days that he would challenge any adult to beat me in a swim race in our apartments swimming pool. I believe I was born with the competitive edge and was taught that being just as humble and respectful is what makes a great athlete. To continue growing as a softball player, I joined a boys' league, where I was able to play at a higher level and challenge myself against strong competition. Those experiences helped shape not only the player I became, but also the person I am today. Softball has taught me discipline, resilience, teamwork, leadership, and the importance of building lifelong friendships. Looking back, I'm grateful for every inning, every lap I swam, every teammate, and every opportunity that both sports has given me. More than four decades later, softball remains one of the biggest passions in my life, and I'm proud to continue giving back to the game and helping others enjoy the same experiences that have meant so much to me. I teach in the pool and still very much love the water, and very proud to organize one of York Region's largest coed slo pitch leagues with the help of my two amazing VP’s, Andrew and Sujeevan – The Aurora Mixed Slo Pitch League.
What's your favourite quote? My favourite quote is, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” by Wayne Gretzky, and it is a quote that has always resonated with me. I believe this applies to so much more than sports. It’s about having the courage to take chances, step outside your comfort zone, and not let fear or doubt hold you back. Throughout my life, I’ve tried to embrace that mindset — whether it was pushing myself to play at a higher level when opportunities for girls were limited, taking on leadership roles, coaching, organizing leagues, or simply saying yes to new challenges. Gretzky’s quote reminds me that opportunities don’t always come perfectly packaged — you must be willing to step up, take the shot, and believe in yourself. Some shots you take will work out, and some won’t, but you will always learn and grow from having the courage to try. That mindset has guided me throughout my life, both on and off the field.
Why has sport/recreation been important in your life? Sport has been one of the most important and consistent parts of my life. It has been so much more than competition — it has been a source of strength, belonging, confidence, and connection. As a child, softball was my outlet. During a time when home life and school life was challenging, the ball diamond and the pool became my haven, my home away from home. It was where I could be myself, build friendships, feel supported, and have something positive to look forward to. Along with spending time in the pool, softball gave me a sense of freedom and helped me navigate difficult moments, and there were many. Sport has shaped me, challenged me, supported me, and given me a lifelong love. I truly believe that a game can change a life — because I know it changed mine.
What life lessons have you learned through sport/recreation? Softball has taught me lessons that extend far beyond the ball diamond. As a player, I learned that success comes from hard work, perseverance, and resilience. There will always be games you lose, mistakes you make, and setbacks you can't control. What matters most is how you respond, learn, and come back stronger. Organizing a league has given me an even greater appreciation for leadership, communication, and community. I've learned that bringing people together takes dedication, patience, and a willingness to solve problems behind the scenes, with a great group to volunteers — often without recognition. But seeing hundreds of people enjoying the game, making new friends, and creating lasting memories makes every challenge worthwhile.
What advice would you give to your younger self? If I could give my younger self one piece of advice, it would be to keep believing in yourself and never underestimate where sport will take you. Growing up, home life wasn't always the easiest. It gave me something to look forward to, a place where I could simply be a kid, have fun, and feel like I belonged. Along with spending time in the pool, it was the one thing that brought me joy and helped me through some challenging years. I'd tell that young girl to soak in every practice, every game, every tournament, and every friendship because one day she'll realize those moments meant so much more than she ever imagined. The game won't just teach her how to hit, throw, or catch — it will teach her resilience, confidence, and how to keep moving forward even when life gets hard. Most of all, I'd tell her that softball and being in the pool will become so much more than a game or activity. It will shape who she is, introduce her to lifelong friends, open doors she never expected, and eventually give her the opportunity to give back by coaching, mentoring, and building a community for others to enjoy. And that's something to be incredibly grateful for.
What is your proudest moment? Without question, my proudest accomplishment isn't something that happened on a softball diamond, or in any pool — it was becoming a Mom and raising my two daughters (who are now adults). Watching them grow into strong, intelligent, resilient, and compassionate young women has been the greatest privilege of my life. Throughout their childhood, they embraced sports with the same passion that I did which I believe helped shape them today. They excelled in karate, gymnastics, trampoline, basketball, dance, and both went on to play elite level rugby, learning the same lessons about teamwork, discipline, perseverance, and confidence that sports taught me. While I'm proud of their athletic achievements, what makes me proudest is the women they have become. They are kind, hardworking, independent, and have the strength to face life's challenges with courage and determination. Seeing them support others, pursue their goals, and stay true to themselves brings me pride every single day. If I've accomplished anything meaningful in my life, it's helping raise two incredible women who I admire not only as my daughters, but as the people they are today.
Why do you think girls-only spaces are important? Girls-only spaces are incredibly important because they provide a place where girls can feel safe, supported, and free to be themselves. For some, it's simply about playing the sport they love. For others, like it was for me, it can become so much more. When I wanted to play at a more competitive level, there weren't many opportunities for girls, so I joined a boys' league. While I'm grateful for that experience because it made me a stronger player, it wasn't always easy. At a pivotal age, I was often teased and ridiculed for my appearance and told that softball at that level wasn't for girls. There were moments when it would have been much easier to quit, but I didn't. I pushed through, learned to believe in myself, and refused to let other people's opinions define what I was capable of. That's one of the reasons I believe girls-only spaces matter so much. Every girl deserves the opportunity to compete, grow, and challenge herself without questioning whether she belongs. They deserve coaches and teammates who build them up, not voices that make them feel they don't fit. I've seen firsthand how sports can change lives. A girls-only space isn't about excluding others — it's about creating an environment where girls can build confidence, develop resilience, form lifelong friendships, and discover their potential. You never know what a team, a coach, or a season might mean to a young girl, or young woman. Sometimes, it can become the place that changes the course of her life.